You're worth it



Let me tell you where I struggle.

I used to date a new guy every month...for years. I used to get so stressed out about having to show off the trendiest outfit that I would spend hours in my closet and miss whatever event I was trying to make. I used to be so embarrassed about having to drive my dad's old beat-up car, that I would beg friends to pick me up from home just to avoid being seen in the old beater. I used to be such a tough manager that I would step on my employees feelings to make sure we hit our sales goals. I used to be so obsessed with how I looked that I spent an hour on my hair everyday and half an hour on my makeup. I used to be so ashamed of my body that I wouldn't eat real meals in front of other people. I used to think my worth was defined by what people thought of me, how many Likes&Comments I received daily, who I knew and what enviable places I was traveling to. And then I learned this truth that I want to share with you:


You are worth so much more than you realize! You are worth so much more than what this world can offer you. Beauty will come and go. So will the hot dates that give you a glimmer of self-worth. So will your reputation; people will forget about you. Years later, you won't even remember what your spent your money on. Fame (if you're unlucky enough to stumble upon it) will eat you alive and spit you out...reference history. Fans/followers will unfollow you. The Rat Race of better title, more money, better office, better BMW will eat you alive and you won't even recognize yourself anymore. Even your family will all pass away like you one day.

In the Bible, there was a single person who was said to have it all, King Solomon. He had wealth that can't be described, was the wisest person in the history of all of time, and was highly respected in all the land. Here are his words about all the passing things that humankind strives for:

Vanity of vanities! All is vanity. What does a man gain by all the toil at which he toils under the sun? A generation goes, and a generation comes... All streams run to the sea, But the sea is not full; To the place where the streams flow, There they flow again... All things are full of weariness; A man cannot utter it; The eye is not satisfied with seeing, Nor the ear filled with hearing. What has been is what will be, And what has been done is what will be done, And there is nothing new under the sun.

Ecclesiastes 1

If your self-worth has been coming from fleeting things, this may sound disheartening. But if you shift your perspective, you see that YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE than all these things that come and go. I've come to realize that striving for any of these things is all apart of the big illusion in life. It's a distraction. Sure, when you're older, it seems like you "finally figured out adulting" because you stopped caring so much about partying and started caring more about your bank account. But even that is a trap if it's where you get your identity. How do I know? Because I see people EVERY SINGLE DAY who traded in the title of "Best Partyer" for the more growed-up title of "Best BMW", and to be frank with you all: it's pathetic. It's sad. I can see the lack of fulfillment in their eyes. Some keep striving for more trinkets. Some settle, thinking this is what life is all about. But it's not. Because we are all worth so much more than we realize.

Where does your worth come from?

It comes from one person - Jesus. He is the only person whose feelings about you do not wane depending on what you have, how entertaining you are, who you know, etc. etc. He is the only person whose life will impact yours every day you are alive and all the way into eternity. He is the only person who gave away everything just to know you.

You are loved more than you will ever know by someone who died to know you.


Jesus is the only person who knows all your weaknesses and failures and doesn't think any differently about you. He is the only one truly knows the empty corners of your heart and how you CRY YOUR EYES OUT for love and belonging. He is the only one who will ever be able to satisfy your need for more: money, clothes, followers, "friends", self-confidence, self-worth, self-acceptance, self-identity. He knows. And He loves you despite any of your shortcomings. If you were the emptiest person on earth or if you were the "worst" person on earth, He would love you just the same. If you were the most famous person on earth or if you were the richest person on earth, He would love you just the same.

There's something to be said of loyal friendships. REAL friendships - not the FB kind (rolling eyes emoji). The friend you don't have to impress with grand stories, funny jokes, new clothes, connections. The friend you can be real with. The friend who has seen you at your worst - sobbing, eyes swollen, makeup running down your face - and they still think you're a beautiful person. That's loyalty. That's authenticity. That's a good friend. But even that will have its limitations. The chances of you retaining that friend for the rest of your life are slimmer than Next Top Model.

But Jesus, He is the most loyal of friends. On your best days and on your worst days, when you're raging angry or celebrating success, He is never wavering in His affection toward you. Jesus sticks by your side closer than a brother. As the psalmist says:

Your steadfast love, O Lord, extends to the heavens, your faithfulness to the clouds.

Psalm 36

So forget about those things that come and go, the affections of people who come and go, the houses, cars, titles, boats and toys that come and go. The beauty, fashion, trends that come and go.  You are worth more!

Hey you...anyone reading this. You are worth so much more than you realize. You are worth the life of Jesus. If you don't know Jesus but you want more in life than to be striving for fleeting things, come talk to me. Once you encounter Him and realize your worth, your life will FOREVER be changed! You will find fulfillment that cannot be lost. You will be whole and complete, forever and always.

With love,